Love

It’s a wonderful life

Sometimes I find myself wishing that things could be better than they actually are. It might be a wish that my kids weren’t so whiny, or that my house could magically clean itself, or that it weren’t raining so I could send the kids outside to play. When Clementine and James start arguing, I start wishing that I had children…

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A Stoic upbringing, Dichotomy of control, Love

Happy families: A Stoic guide to family relationships

See an expanded version of this post on the Stoicism Today blog of Modern Stoicism.   “All happy families are alike,” wrote Tolstoy in Anna Karenina, and “each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” When I first read this line as a teenager, I couldn’t understand what Tolstoy meant. How could there be many kinds of unhappiness, but…

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Love, Miscellaneous

Stoic parent role models

Stoics have always been big believers in role models. In antiquity they often suggested that learners picture a wise man watching their actions, or that they ask themselves what a wise person would do in their situation. We know that the Stoics talked a lot about the ideal sage, so one way to do this exercise is to think about…

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Love

A doctrine of love

Up to this point I’ve talked a lot about how we can use our reasoning ability to control our thoughts and pursue excellence as people and as parents. This unrelenting focus on rationality and virtue can seem off-putting to many people who are not familiar with the psychological benefits (contentment, joy, fulfillment) you often experience as a by-product of the…

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