Love, Miscellaneous

Stoic parent role models

Stoics have always been big believers in role models. In antiquity they often suggested that learners picture a wise man watching their actions, or that they ask themselves what a wise person would do in their situation. We know that the Stoics talked a lot about the ideal sage, so one way to do this exercise is to think about…

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Parenting basics

Materialism

I’ve never really thought of myself as a materialistic person. I’ve always worn inexpensive clothes, lived in modest dwellings, and tried to judge my companions by the quality of their character rather than the expensiveness of their possessions. But when I had kids, my relationship with material goods suddenly changed. My husband and I found ourselves spending a lot of…

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A Stoic upbringing

Instructions vs. core principles

Some days I feel like I am constantly telling my kids what to do: get your feet off the couch, be careful with Freddy, use good table manners, play nicely together, clean up your toys. It’s annoying for me and for them, but often it seems there is no alternative to this steady stream of instructions. That’s why I stopped…

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A Stoic upbringing

A Stoic upbringing: The discipline of action

Of the three Stoic disciplines, the discipline of action may be the most natural to teach young children. While the disciplines of desire and assent have primarily internal processes and results, the discipline of action is more external and visible. So because children interact with other people every day, they have plenty of opportunities to learn and practice Stoic ethics–and…

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